Have you ever noticed that you get what you tolerate in life?
As motivational speaker Tony Robbins said, “Remember: we all get what we tolerate. So stop tolerating excuses within yourself, limiting beliefs of the past, or half-assed or fearful states.”
If you’re like most people, you’re probably settling in one or more areas of your life. You might be thinking, “That’s crazy, I definitely don’t do that.” While it might sound counter-intuitive, hear me out.
If you don’t believe me, look at your physical body, your bank account, and the quality of relationships in your life. Are they at peak levels or just above toleration levels?
I’m confident that each of these areas in your life is only at a “tolerable” level and rarely, if ever above that level. Let me explain…
Why You Get What You Tolerate in Life
First, let me define what it means to tolerate something in your life. During my 20+ years as a high-performance coach, I’ve found that your toleration levels are directly tied to your own internal self-image or how you see yourself.
I’m not talking about what you see in the mirror either. I’m talking about the core beliefs that you hold inside about yourself. Your self-image runs your life!
Simply put, if you had a better belief system about yourself, your entire life could change. If you had a better self-image and belief system, your toleration levels would be much higher in every area.
- You would demand that you are constantly in amazing health.
- You would demand that you are attracting and earning more money in your business or career.
- And you would demand that you only have the best relationships in your life.
For example, when you believe on a deep level that you are talented and deserving, what would you no longer tolerate? Would you finally quit that job you hate and bet on yourself? Would you finally chase your dreams with unrelenting effort?
Another situation that I see so many people struggle with is their insecurities and attracting the right relationships. As I’m sure you know, the relationships to the five closest people in your life play a huge role in your success, happiness, income, and so much more.
For example, when you believe at a deep level that you are lovable and amazing, what would you no longer tolerate in your relationships? Would you finally get out of that toxic relationship that leaves you frustrated and unfilled? Would you finally learn to love yourself so you could love others?
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
When you let your limiting beliefs control what you tolerate, this brings one of the worst feelings ever…SETTLING. When you settle, you accept things as they are and give up on even trying to change them. Even though, with effort, you can change anything you want in life.
If this sounds familiar, don’t beat yourself. In fact, human beings are programmed at a very young age to make no mistakes, play it safe, always have the acceptable answer, and follow society’s rules. But as I’m sure you know, this leads to a life of mediocrity, settling for average, and never really living your life.
So let me ask, what have you settled for in your life? Is it your job? Your current income? Your relationships?
Now imagine what all of these things would like if you were brave enough to stop settling and start living your life to the fullest. Imagine if you had the courage that few utilize to address the limiting beliefs holding you back so that you can finally create what you want in life?
When you take this path, I want to let you know in advance, it’s a challenging path. It will require you to become someone new. It will require you to address your old fears and level up in all areas of your life.
I promise that making this bold decision will ensure you become the ultimate version of yourself. Taking this action and chasing your dreams will ensure you end up with no regrets later in life because you know that you went all-in on yourself.
The Choice Is Yours
At this moment, you have a choice. You can choose one of two things.
You can say to yourself, “I’m not ready” and maintain your current spot in life. You can stay the same person, keep settling, and keep your toleration levels the same. While you might raise them occasionally, it probably won’t last. Because almost always, your self-image will bring you back to those old toleration levels.
The second option is to choose yourself. You can choose the road less traveled. You can leave your comfort zone and pursue your dreams with unrelenting effort. You can push past fear, learn from your past, and create the future you’ve always dreamed about.
What Will You Choose?
So which option will you choose? Will you choose the safe, secure route to mediocrity? Or will you choose to bet on yourself and take the road less traveled?
One is easy and one is hard. But nothing good ever comes from taking shortcuts in life.
Self-discovery is challenging work. It requires effort, courage, vulnerability, and the choice to make an active change in what you will no longer tolerate in your life.
If you’re like most people, this might feel like a foreign concept. You might not even know exactly what I’m talking about but you know that you want more in your life. You no longer want to settle and you finally want to live up to your full potential.
Now is the time to empower yourself!
No one can want it for you more than you want it for yourself. Maybe, just maybe, it’s time to put in the work on yourself, before it’s too late.
If you’re ready, we love working with people who are willing to recreate the demarcation line and build a new story for their future. A story that is built from imagination and possibility, not from past results.
Don’t forget, you deserve it.
You deserve to have everything you want. You weren’t given a goal without the capabilities to make it a reality.